Mermaids of Belonging

26112444_10159831925035597_7491365602864655172_nWow. I hardly know where to begin. The most amazing things have been happening since a bunch of mermaids swam into my life. They brought in the New Year with me, literally on New Year’s Eve, when Dean and I stopped in at the Silverton Casino to visit our very own mermaid of Las Vegas. As I watched her I thought, “I want to be a mermaid.” This simple acknowledgment of longing seemed to activate Continue reading

Finding A Mentor That Empowers You

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This sounds like the perfect solution, doesn’t it? Just connect with the right person and all your problems will disappear. I mean look at all the people who have won the jackpot by getting the ear of Oprah for a moment or two. There is a catch, though, there always is. Do not be misled into believing that someone else can ever truly empower you.

The kind of empowerment that we are all really seeking, that which has the fortitude to change the world for the better, can only come from within.

Yes, there are people in the world who are incredibly influential. A person like Oprah has the power to make you suddenly be seen by a large number of people. Think of that for a moment. What would it be like to be seen this publicly? Is there anything you are not prepared to share? What is the value you place on your own privacy? What about the privacy of your loved ones? Continue reading

Creating Light from the Darkness (Winter Solstice)

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Life is full of contrasts. Change is the one thing we can count on in life. Everything changes, sometimes dramatically as if in an instant. What was light is suddenly dark, or what is dark is suddenly brought to light. Other times change happens so slowly, with such small increments, that our human perception can hardly conceive it at all. Like a glacier, the ice appears static and still, but underneath there are currents of icy water, moving the frozen mountains above. They tumble forward, in a dance that only the songs of epics could inspire. Huge monoliths of ice will transform in the dark of night, so slowly, it’s hard to perceive. This too, can be the pattern your energetic movements from dark to light, or from light to dark.

December 22 is the Winter Solstice. On Tuesday we will experience the longest night of the year. It is a special moment in the annual cycle and has been celebrated and revered across cultures spanning all of human existence. From Machu Picchu to Stonehenge, the evidence of a history of human connection to the winter solstice marks our ancient earth with carefully constructed monuments.

Even our modern world responds to this energetic shift. Do you think it is a coincidence that the new Star Wars movie is opening around the time of the Winter Solstice? Continue reading

It’s All About the Gratitude!

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Does it seem as strange to you as it does to me that we only celebrate Thanksgiving once a year? I mean there are so many things to be thankful for every day, all day long…

The Thanksgiving Day holiday is a time to acknowledge all that you are thankful for. The tradition is to gather together with friends and family to share some words of thanks together as a group. How have your Thanksgiving Days been lately? Have you gathered for a feast? Has anyone spoken up about what they are most thankful for? Has it become just another day to eat a lot of food and watch football?

As your Creativity Coach, I urge you to celebrate the holiday this year with the intention of expressing Continue reading

10 Suggestions for Creating Better Conversations

Creating Better Conversations

What were you thinking when you first read Chapter 7 in Alice’s Adventures In Wonderland? That chapter is titled “A Mad Tea Party.” I remember being so disturbed. I had never heard a conversation like that before. I remember feeling like I wanted to stop reading. (Even now when I read it, I get all itchy feeling). I wanted for Alice to run away. I was worried for the Doormouse! I didn’t like the Hatter and I was beginning to not like the Hare very much either. When that chapter was over, I was so relieved. This is how I feel so many conversations seem to go these days. They can be full of conflict, misperceptions, and plain old rudeness. In contrast, I was fascinated by the conversations in Jane Austen’s novels. There is such a careful selection of words in order to convey the most accurate meaning. Perhaps exceedingly cautious and overstated at times, but still better exchanges than those provided by the nasty old Hatter!

If you feel the same way, here are 10 simple suggestions to help improve the quality of your conversations. This week is Better Conversation Week, so what better time to put these tips into action! Just in time for Thanksgiving, too, when many of us will be spending some quality time with friends and family engaging in the fine old art of conversation. Try a few of these suggestions out and watch your experience of life improve today… Continue reading

Be the Author of Your Greatness Story!

Your Greatness Story

It’s November now and the beginning of Family Stories Month. Yay! I’m so excited about this… Today is November 1st and National Author’s Day. I’d like to celebrate today with you, by sharing a family story about a very special up and coming author I know.

My five year old son is in Kindergarten and he’s learning to read and write. I don’t remember learning to read until maybe the third grade, but now, everyone seems to be in a real hurry to achieve greatness. Although I am a firm believer that every one of us has greatness resonating inside of us, I also firmly believe that we each run on our own timetable for this greatness to manifest. It’s not something that can be rushed through. It requires patience. It requires the delicate nurturing of your creative life. It can’t be demanded, expected and measured across the board. Despite what some institutions think, there is no educational standard for it. Each person will come to their greatness in their own time and in their own way. There will be a lot of challenges along the way and a lot of lessons to be learned. It will require a strong understanding of and belief in yourself. It will take some hard work, a bit of luck, and a good dose of openness to receiving it. Continue reading

10 Action Items for Immediate Self Improvement

Did you know that September is Self Improvement Month? Well, if you didn’t, don’t worry, you still have 3 days to get on the ball and start improving yourself! Here’s my list of 10 fail-proof action items for self-improvement that you can accomplish today, right now. Seriously, this might just be my best creating exercise ever!

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  1. Forgive yourself… Right now, say it out loud, “(state your name), I forgive you!”
  1. Forgive others… Same thing, say it out loud, “(the name of the person you need to forgive), I forgive you!”
  1. Let go of anger, fear, regret and worry. None of these things serve you. Some things truly are beyond your control. It’s time to start using the energy tied up in these useless activities for a greater good.
  1. Acknowledge that you have strength and limits, and just to be clear, that is not limitless strength. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated. No one expects you to be a superhero except maybe you. Be present with your feelings as they come. Be mindful of their power over you and others. Observe them from a safe place. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
  1. Give yourself a hug. Go ahead, really, do it. You are worthy of great love.
  1. Let yourself smile. Let that smile grow into a giggle. Let that giggle grow into a laugh. Laughter heals.
  1. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Hold it and release. Repeat 3 times.
  1. Blow a kiss to someone you miss.
  1. Call someone you love and tell him or her that you love him or her. This one is win-win. Chances are that person wants to hear what you have to say just as badly as you want to say it. If they don’t pick up the phone, be sure to leave it as a message. No better time than the present to tell someone you love them.
  1. Know that you are perfect just the way you are right now.

Great job! You look 10 years younger and you feel 10 pounds lighter. Awesome, isn’t it?

Your Creativity Coach,

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Bonnie Kelso is the creator of The ABCs of Conscious Creating. She uses energy healing and creating exercises to connect people to their higher “creative” selves. For more information about her services read about her ACCESS! program or to schedule a consultation please contact her at creatingyourexperience@gmail.com. Are you ready to vitalize your creative life?

Reveal Your Authentic Self!

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I have a new tradition. I suppose it became a tradition this year, because I started it last year. All great traditions have to start some where, some time! Every year, when my kids are on vacation with their Dad, I take myself on a week-long spiritual retreat. I’m just now starting to understand what that really means. It is often spent exploring my inner-self through silent meditation, where I can be alone and literally “retreat” into myself. It’s a precious uninterrupted time when I can simply be my most authentic self and connect deeply with who I am as a soul. A spiritual retreat is also about connecting to community, such as a group of like-minded individuals whom I may have never met before, or a community of nature: the trees, the ocean, the mountains, including all the animals that choose to present themselves to me. On this year’s retreat I experienced all three connections. I experienced a connection to myself, a connection to my human community, and a connection to the natural world. Each experience of connection provided me with something different, a unique way to heal my wounds, to cleanse my thoughts, to lift my heart, and to inspire and restore my mind, body and spirit. Although my week was filled with amazing people, places and creatures, one connection in particular stands out above the rest. It happened at a very unique place and involved an eye-to-eye connection with a bobcat.

I’ll start with the place… Sunburst Sanctuary. Founded in 1969 by the late Norman Paulsen, Sunburst Sanctuary is a utopia nestled in the hills north of Santa Barbara, California. A small community of people there farm the land and live in harmony together guided by the principles found in the spiritual teaching of Paramahansa Yogananda. Many of the same people who first started the community still live there today. Everyone was truly welcoming and kind to me. It was evident that members had been working together for many years. No one person was in charge. Some people who had special talents were focused in certain areas, but when it came to delivering the programming and teachings, it was like everyone took turns. Each individual had a time to shine. Continue reading